July 18, 2007

Dear Helen,
    I am interested in a man I work with. He is very sweet. I am getting the feeling that he is interested in me too. I am living with someone right now, but we haven’t been getting along for awhile . We are more like roommates.  There are no children involved so I could leave at anytime.
    What I would like to know is, do you see anything happing with the guy I work with or  am I just living in a fantasy world?  I could really use some good advice right now. Thank you for your time. Signed, Hoping for Happiness.

    Let us have a heart to heart. First, you know what they say about office romances? They seldom work out and then become very awkward and hard to deal with . It is obvious that you are unhappy in your personal life. However, you better make sure your relationship is really over before you go looking to start up another one.
    My cards showed that you are sending out the “I’m unhappy and looking”  vibe,  and this guy at work is reading them loud and clear. He is thinking,  he'd like to be the one to put a smile back on your face. I'm sure you know what I mean. The last thing you need is this getting all around the office and I can see that happening if this goes too far.
    Look sweetie.  You need to straighten out your home life first and foremost.  If you are so unhappy, then do something about it. You are young and single. You don't have to put up with your situation. You need to sit your man down and put all your cards on the table. Be honest and direct. He might be feeling the same way as you do and then this can end amicably. I really truly believe that you cannot start something new with an honest heart without ending the old.
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Dear Helen,
    I hope you are well. I was disappointed when you were no longer in the paper. What ever it was, I hope you have dealt with it and you are on an even keel now. Helen, I have a son that recently moved out West. He thinks he is going to work hard and make lots of money. I told him that he would work hard, but I don't think he is going to find what he is looking for.
    Can you please tell me if he is going to be alright? He is my one and only and though he is a good and intelligent man, I still can't help but worry some. Signed, Worried Mom.

    As a mother of an only Son, who also moved out West, I can certainly empathise with you. You are right, your son is a good Man ( King of Clubs ) and a hard worker. I see him working ( and yes, working hard) and doing very, very well. He will make money. Actually, pretty darn good money indeed. I cannot say if he will find what he is looking for, but I can say he is in the right place at this time in his life.
    This is something your son needs to do. Whatever is to come from this . . . it's all good! There is nothing foreboding coming from this experience. Quite the contrary in fact. I can tell you, I see him staying out that way for awhile. Not to worry though. His stay will not be forever and he will be the better man having this experience in his life. So be at peace. He is just on one of life's learning adventures. All is well.
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