November 14, 2007


Dear Helen,
    I would like to know the following question. Will I find work in the near future? Will I open my own store? How is my relationship going to go with my live-in boyfriend. Will I find happiness soon. I would appreciate any information you can tell me. Thank you. HOPEFUL FOR A BRIGHT TOMORROW.


    My cards show that you will create your own job situation, though I don't see it as a store.  I should also say, it is unwise for you to be going into debt right now as well.  So,  put off the idea of a store for at least one year.
    That said. You could have a store out of your own home. I do. My husband does and it works out fine.  Start small and work your way into more. Even Amazon.com started out of his garage. Now his is worth millions!
    The  relationship with your live-in lover is just about the same as it always has been. Though it is safe and comfortable for the most part, it is also boring. You may be seeing it in a different light with all your new dreams. Do you see it going nowhere? Think on this.
    Also.  I do not see a marriage in my cards for you with this man.  It’s as good as it gets I’m afraid. You can stay in this relationship for the financial benefits, but as for anything else you are going to have to look some place else. As long as you stay in this situation, you will have to make your own happiness and I think you have too much of a wonderful “tomorrow” to make this forever. In about a year, much will change for you. All for the better.
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Dear Helen,
    I am a twenty nine year old woman with a young daughter. My daughter does not see her biological father at all and does not know him. Not even a picture.  She was raised since she was one by my boyfriend. Recently, he and I split up after eight years together. I gave him an ultimatum to either marry me or move out. He moved out. One minute we were fine, the next he is out the door.
    He said he would buy me a set of rings. When I told him I had found a set that my Aunt was willing to sell to us at an incredibly cheap price ( almost giving us ) he said that was fine and that I could go and get them to show him. That night when he came home from work he said no way that no one was going to force him to do anything that he didn’t want.
     I don’t understand. How could things have change from morning until he got home from work? Can you tell me what went on? Did someone talk him out of it? My daughter misses her daddy. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to waste anymore time in this situation if there is never going to be any marriage. Even though I lived with this man I was uncomfortable with it. I am old fashion at heart. Yes, I got pregnant when I was not married, but I won’t let that happen to me again. Once is enough. I feel that if I’m good enough to live with I’m good enough to marry. Please Helen.  Just tell me that you see something good for me down the road and everything is going to be fine. Thank you. Just sign me, SIMPLY BLUE.


    I’m sorry you broke up with your boyfriend. I could feel how sad you are just from holding your letter. Sweetie, ultimatums seldom work for anyone. You can’t force a person into marriage these days. Shot gun weddings just don't work anymore. When you force a person to walk down the aisle and it feels more like  the “Green Mile, you know the outcome is going to be disastrous.
    My cards show that your boyfriend does not want to be married right now to anyone so take heart with that. He has “commitment issues. His problem, not yours.  I can understand where your coming from. I agree with you.  If you’re good enough to live with, your good enough to marry. I subscribe to that way of thinking myself.
    Look. You gave this guy eight  years. That is a long, long time to figure out if he wanted to spend the rest of his life with you and your daughter. The ultimatum was his ticket out my dear.  I think you two need to take a break from each other to see if you are really meant to be “forever” it's not over just yet. There is another chapter to be written. Until then, I want you to think long and hard on what it is you need and want for your happiness and your child's. When you figure it out, hold fast to it and make it happen.
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