September 19, 2007


Dear Helen,
    You did a reading for my (only) sister in the fall and said that her sister, (that would be me) would meet someone new, fall in love and be engaged by the holidays. You weren’t sure if it was Christmas or New Years. Well, I got engaged this Christmas. I was so surprised. Even though you said so in her card reading, I honestly wasn’t expecting it, but I’m so happy and in love.
    My problems is, my fiance wants to get married sometime in the spring or summer.  I would like to wait for a year so we can save up to have the kind of wedding I’ve always dreamed of. Do you think I’m being selfish? I saw disappointment in his face when I told him I would like to wait. Do you think this will hurt the relationship? Do you see us getting married this year? Do you see things working out for us? Do you see children and a happy future for us? Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions. Signed Happy and In Love.

    Congratulations on your engagement! Sweetie, your young man is the Jack of Diamonds. That means he is a “go-getter” by nature. It’s something you’re going to have to learn to live with.  It’s not a bad thing at all. It’s just going to take some adjusting on your part. A Diamond male gives one hundred and ten percent to all of their endeavors. They are a mixture of lighting, tornadoes, high octane and roller coaster rides, all rolled into one fabulous person. I honestly admire Diamond people and their zest for life. However, they can make the rest of us feel tired sometimes just by being around them . . . but it’s worth it!
    He is going to be an incredible husband and an equally exceptional father someday. Don’t worry about him looking a little hurt. He’s not really.  He’s just use to getting his own way. So, when he doesn’t get his way, it throws him off balance for awhile. I don’t think NO was said to this man too often in his life. He is a bit spoiled, but not too spoiled. (Hell, we should all be so lucky to be cherished, and spoiled by our parents!)
    One key to a Diamond male is, always (and I mean always) be honest. Let him know exactly what you think on a subject and where you stand. Diamonds are by their very existence, “take charge” people and unless to put your two cents worth in right from the beginning, well, they will take charge. 
    Diamonds like money! They are materialistic.  So, my advise to you is, sit him down and show him in black and white, dollar and cents,  approximately how much your (not his) dream  wedding would cost. To be honest, most reputable halls, photographers, churches, etc, are likely booked already for this spring and summer. To take a year to plan a wedding is not unreasonable at all. 
    Things are going to work out just fine Cinderella. My cards showed you are going to have the wedding of your dreams (next year) and he will be thrilled with it when all is said and done.  Be patient with him. He is in love. It is hard for him to wait until you become his beloved bride. You and he will live happily ever after with two children to bless and complete this fairy tale. And they lived happily ever after. The End.

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Dear Helen,

    I’ve been with the love of my life now for eight years. We were married a year and a half ago. I have three girls from my previous marriage and they are all out on their own now. My husband has no children of his own and I am unable to have any more. He is very good with my girls. What I would like to ask you is whether your see us adopting a child in the near future. We are applying for adoption right after Christmas. My husband would like to have a child and I would love to have another child to love and care for. I always feel so sad when I see my husband looking at other children with their fathers. I hope and pray that the good lord will honour us with a child. Hopefully a little boy. One last question. Where my husband works, there has been many layoffs. Will this happen to him also? Hoping to hear from you soon! Thank You! Signed, M

Dear M,
    Your right, any child that had the good fortune to come into your home would be loved and cherished by you both. You two are the perfect example of what adopting parents should be. You are strong, loving, kind, fiercely protective of your children and both of you are decent, good down to earth, hard working people. Honestly,  if I had a magic wand, I would grant your request immediately!
     Unfortunately, adoption agencies work very slow and there is so much red tape that goes along with the process. The layout I did for you, did show a young boy coming to your home. He is not a baby. He is a young boy who needs love and attention. I believe he was abandoned some how. There is something sad about his situation,  but it can, and will be over come,  once he is in your care.
     It will happen. You will need to be patient for a short time. In the mean time, there could be a possibility that you are going to have unexpected news about another little one. Hold your breath. You could be Grandma by the end of the year.  Man, you are going to be the youngest looking Grandma in Port! So, in the next two years,  you and your husband should have two young men entering your lives and your hearts. As far as your husbands job goes, it might get really close to him, but he should be okay for a while longer. All the best!
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